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Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Long time no xanga...

Hmmm i haven't posted anything in a while. Lesse. The only thing i can think of right now is the fact that i'm a third marking period senior and i still have a crapload of work. Ya know, this whole senior thing isn't as amazing as everyone has said it is seriously. I don't really go out MORE then i did last year, i don't have a significant difference in free time when compared to last year, i don't cut as much as alot of seniors have in the past cuz i wanna graduate lol... and there's stilll a lot of hw to do, especially if you take alot of AP/Honors classes. So yea, sorry to burst people's "I'm a senior so everything is dandy" bubble. But i guess on the bright side my parents have eased a teeeeny tiiiny bit on going out and stuff since i don't have to worry about college stuff anymore. *sigh i guess i'm just holding my breath till graduation so i can RUNN AWAYYYYYY....lol. i can't wait to be independent. I don't even care if i have to work to support myself i just wanna be free from my parents' restrictions and things. I wanna make my own mistakes, i wanna learn for myself. So yep that's about it. 

Manga picture time...Loveless by:Yun Koga
This is a really good manga...



Sunday, December 25, 2005





Merry Christmas ! ! ! !

Two thousand years have almost gone by
Since Jesus was nailed on a cross to die
His teachings were done by words and deed
And thousand would listen, and thousands would heed.
The words of His wisdom, and that of God
As many miles on foot would he trod
Let Peace be on earth, would be His command,
And nothing less than this should we demand!
On the Eve of His birth let us all be blessed
And thank our God as we see the end of our quest.
Let us all stand together, as brother and friend
And pledge our love, and respect to a world without end.
Together we stand, in joy and in sorrow
and praise the birth of Jesus with the light of tomorrow!



Thursday, November 03, 2005

Hmm....how come everyone is so down? OK OK....i know school sucks butt hole but i mean...isn't there any way that we can all be a little happier? There's been so much unnecessary drama these past two months of school...it's pretty crazy. It's SENIOR year...we should just make the best of it while we can. This IS supposed to be one of the best times of our lives, but at this point...i'm really doubtful. *sigh, i need to take my mind off of this.

Hmm...what to do what to do. Oh i know.

Here's to the girls of Parsippany Hills Varsity Tennis Team. Eventhough i missed out on all of the action last year, i still had an amazing time this year. I need to say thanks to Kush, Melissa, Jenny, Danielle, Jessica, Kirthy, Ami, and Tara for making my last year of high school tennis a wonderful memory. I will never forget kirthy's unusual dances and our AMAZING hand shake, jessica's "no one liiiiikkessss meeee"...eventhough you know that all of us like you, Melissa's slices and monday night lights...and her amazing driving skills...which i have become to know very well..., JZ's mad skeels...jia YOUUU!!!!, Tara's um...being "on time" every day, Danielle's peculiarities..and no danielle...i'm not smiling..., and Ami's "i'm in jail, you're in jail, we're alllll in jaillll!!!". Well...it's been great. Thanks you guys...i will miss it tremendously.

I HEART YOU GUYSS!!!!!

~Deb


Tuesday, August 23, 2005

Proverbs 15:13-14(Amp):
13 A glad heart makes a cheerful countenance, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is broken.
14 The mind of him who has understanding, seeks knowledge, inquires after and craves it, but the mouths of (self-confident) fools feed on folly.

In these verses in Proverbs we find a comparison between a merry heart and a sorrowful heart. Verse 13 tells us that you can tell the condition of a man's heart by looking at his countenance (his facial appearance).  When people are happy, you can tell by the sparkle in their eyes, their smile and their cheerful attitude. When they are older, they will even have what we call "smile wrinkles" instead of the wrinkles caused by frowning.   Indeed, facial looks reveal a lot about a person.

You can also read on a person's face when they have sorrow in their heart, especially when you know a person. We have all experienced someone saying to us, when we were troubled about something, "What is wrong? Are you worried about something?"  We all have experiences in our lives that cause us to be broken-hearted about an incident. The scripture tells us that if we allow this sorrow of heart to continue, it can break our spirits. 

How can we get past heart break over the loss of someone or something?  We must give the person or situation to the Lord and ask Him to remove the sorrow and grief from our hearts.  We can keep the good memories of a lost loved one, but we must not allow the enemy to torment us with the grief of our loss. God will replace the emptiness we feel from the loss of a mate, a child, a friend, or a home, if we ask Him to do this. Jesus died on the cross, not only to give us eternal life, but He also died to take our grief and sorrows. Jesus Christ, on the cross bore all of our iniquities, pain, sickness and sorrow. Since He took them, we do not have to take these things, but rather receive our salvation, healing, deliverance and peace by faith.

Isaiah 53:4-6:
4 Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.
5 But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
6 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.

Proverbs 15:14 tells us that if we have God's understanding, we can ask Him for the knowledge to overcome every trial and problem we face.  God is bigger than our grief, sorrow, pain and every problem that any of us could face. We must never blame Him for our troubles, as the devil is the trouble maker, not our Lord.  God is there for us, to help us overcome anything the enemy has done, or is trying to do. God is the one that will rescue us and help us in our hour of need.  However, we must not be like the fool who feeds on his folly.   This is a person who is continually mouthing  his troubles and blaming others, including God, for his circumstances.  He feeds on self-pity and rehearses his problems to all who will listen.  We must give our heartaches and troubles to God and keep a cheerful attitude no matter what is going on in our lives. We need to remember, "this too, shall pass" as God is eternal and has a good plan for our future.

As Christians, death is the last enemy we face, as we have the assurance that we shall see all of our loved ones who have died in Christ once again. The devil may have snatched them off this earth, but because they belong to God, He snatches them from the devil and takes them home with him. We will be reunited with them. That shall happen when we get to Heaven, or when Christ comes again to this earth and brings them with Him at the resurrection. We are not like those who have no hope. In Christ, our future is full of His promises and we are promised victory over death and the grave!

I Thessalonians 5:23: "And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ."

Healed by the Word

God intends for His body to be made whole. His people, being those individual members of His body, need His wholeness to be able to perform the tasks commissioned to them as the church. One recent move of the Holy Spirit has been the restoration of the gifts of the Spirit to the church bringing deliverance and healing. Since Jesus is coming back for a church without spot or blemish, a glorious church, we can look for her to be cleansed and healed before that moment. This healing involves the total man: spirit, soul and body. "That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish" (Ephesians 5:26-27).

The Hebrew word for heal is rapha, which means to make thoroughly whole. The Greek word "sozo" has the same connotation. It is used interchangeably throughout the Greek New Testament to mean to "save" and to "heal". We need to be free of "...the sin which doth so easily beset us..." (Hebrews 12:1), the sickness in our bodies, the fears of the soul, and all that keeps us from being the overcoming sons of God. This is what the Bible calls sanctification; the process of cleansing that needs to take place within our spirits, our souls, and our bodies.

Trinity of God and Man

Man is a trichotomy made up of spirit, soul and body. God designed man as a functioning unit with his reborn spirit to be in charge of the soul (mind, will, and emotions), and with the body in subjection to the soul and spirit. Man was created in the image of God. Until we understand this, we cannot begin to understand ourselves.

"And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them" (Genesis 1:26-27).

First let us notice God said, " let us make man in our image". God is also a triune being. The Godhead is made up of the Father, the Son (Jesus), and the Holy Spirit. We must have some understanding of this mystery if we are to understand our own makeup. Jesus spoke in Mark 12:29," ...The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord." John records in I John 5:7, "For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost: and these three are one." From these Scriptures we can see that God is not three Gods nor a three headed being, but rather one God with three distinct and separate personalities. The Word in I John 5:7 is referring to Jesus since John 1:14 states, "And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth."

Perhaps through an analogy we can understand better how He can be three in one. A married man with a family is a father, a husband and a son. He is not three different men but has three different roles. He relates to his children, wife, and parents in a different way. It's similar with the Lord. He relates to us as the Father, as the Son, and as the Holy Spirit. God does not change; He is holy, He is spirit, He is eternal. God is one, but He has three forms even as water can manifest as a solid, liquid, or gas, yet is still one compound. As ice it takes a definite form and shape; as a liquid it flows freely, and as steam it becomes vaporous. Even so, the Godhead manifests Himself so He can be seen as Jesus, felt like rivers of water as the Holy Spirit, and known as the invisible power of the Father.

(http://www.bible.com/answers/ahealing.html)


Wednesday, August 10, 2005

wow.....this is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO true....man....have they hit all of the issues right on....wow....just wow....


The Asian Parent Syndrome


One of the major factors contributing to Asian Male bitterness is no doubt the parents. Now don't get me wrong. Asian Parents are generally loving, caring, and doting; nevertheless, there are two very important factors that Asian Parents have on their kids, especially their sons, that instill bitterness.

Academics Over Social Life
The first factor is the pressure. Oh, the pressure. If you think you know what parental pressure is, and you're not Asian, you are wrong. Asian kids are consistently expected to do more and do better than their peers, and hell, even kids twice their age. Therefore, almost all Asian children 1) will play an instrument (a dignified classical instrument at that, and certainly not electric guitar) 2) will study math at an accelerated pace - I was doing calculus in middle school 3) will participate in as many extracurricular activities as possible (all academic though, never sports) and 4) take standardized tests early and as many times as necessary to achieve a perfect score.

Asian parents instill the notion of 'you must succeed' (by which they mean academic success, not social success) so early that by the time they reach high school, Asian kids are walking zombies reciting scientific facts like gospel. This problem is only exacerbated by the Asian trait (so common I swear it must be genetic) to compare children. Inevitably in any Asian child's life, they will hear a line similar to "Why aren't you taking calculus yet? Jim Wong's son is a year younger than you and he is!", or "You only got a 1550 on the SAT? Sally Lee's daughter got a 1590!" or "What, you mean you're not valedictorian!?" Though all Asian kids are driven by their parents to be geniuses, of course, only a few of them are actually capable of being geniuses. Those that aren't live constantly under the vague impression that their parents wish their kids were better, while those who ARE, of course, live constantly under the vague impression that their parents believe they COULD be doing better.

Obviously such academic pressure leaves no time for a social life. Dating isn't mentioned in the Asian household, and girls only come up as a topic of discussion if they're horrifically smart and if your parents want to compare you to them. If dating is allowed, of course, the girlfriend must be Asian and must be smart (though not as smart as you, of course, as that would hurt the Family Honor). The end result is that Asian kids are disproportionately Book Smart over Street Smart. They can explain to you the Fundamental Theorem of Calculus but never grasp the fundamental rules of dating. Of course, there are Asian kids who don't listen to these parents. They might go out, switch girlfriends monthly like they're football players, and never study and always party. These kids are disowned and never mentioned to the relatives.

This trend continues into college somewhat, until about the age of 21 or so. By this point the Asian child's path in life is relatively clear, and the Asian parents begin the OTHER inevitable lines that every Asian child hears in their lifetime: "Why haven't you met a nice Chinese/Japanese/Korean girl yet and given us grandchildren?" Asian parents are usually oblivious to the fact that they've systematically destroyed the social competence of their children, yet they expect them to be smooth maverick playboys as young adults, charming women all around. An Asian son who fails to maintain a steady girlfriend and fiancee faces increasingly irritating 'advice' on how to find women and insinuations that he might be gay. This vicious one-two punch of social emasculation and later social expectation pretty much means that the Asian son is under constant pressure from the time he enters grade school to the time he's produced grandchildren.

Despite it all, Asian kids generally love their parents very much. We respect family and our relatives. We don't go out getting drunk and knocking up some random girl, not only because it's a generally Bad Thing to Do, but also because of how much it would hurt our parents. Asian kids take care of their parents long after other kids have shuffled their parents off to nursing homes. In short, despite all the grief Asian parents are capable of dishing out, their kids still love them - a fact Asians don't get enough credit for.

Inheriting Stereotypes
The other area where Asian parents cause their sons no amount of grief is not really their fault. Actually, it's the stereotypes that the former generations cause the latter generations to inherit. Let me explain.

One common criticism to the points we make on this site is something along the lines of: "Of COURSE girls don't want Asian men! Asian men are sexist pigs who expect their wives to stay in the kitchen, not speak unless being spoken to, walk five paces behind their husband, and bear as many children as necessary until they give their husband a son!" This is where the stereotypes come in. While it's true that maybe two generations ago, such views were valid, things are not the same today. And yet the view still holds. It's so bad such that Asian girls born in America, having seen how their father treats their mother or how their grandfather treats their grandmother, swears she'll never date an Asian man, because she mistakenly assumes that all the Asian men her age will treat her like that. This assumption is fallacious as any Asian man born in America will likewise have seen how his grandfather has treated his grandmother and sworn never to do the same. Yet this will never help him because Asian girls will run away from him in needless fear.

White girls, too, while not having witnessed such Asian sexism firsthand, usually will have heard generalized accounts on how subservient Asian women are, and will have heard statements of varying validity, ranging from the fairly sad but true such as "Asian husbands will put their work before you" to the completely invalid in the modern day like "Asian husbands will make you bind your feet". The end result is the same. The modern girl who has her eyes on career and a semi-independent life will be told "Don't marry an Asian - you'll never see anything but the inside of a kitchen for the rest of your life".

This inheritance of stereotypes is insidious in large part because the Asian male can do nothing about it. He can treat all the girls he knows in as gentlemanly a manner as possible (a move likely to put him on the Friends Ladder - see the Ladder Theory in our Links for more), and still the average girl will be told, by the stereotype "Oh sure, he treats you nicely now. Just wait until you have to cook his food and bear his sons." That's not to say that no Asian men today are like that - there are still some that are. It's just that we're all painted with the same negative brush that's really frustrating. This stereotype is like saying that all Southerners must be racist, since not even fifty years ago blacks had to sit in the back of the bus and use separate water fountains - while calling Southerners racist, like calling Asian men sexist, might still be true for some members of the population, it by no means holds true for everybody.

http://www.bitterasianmen.com/



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